Introduction

“Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.” His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.” (His parents did not know that this was from the LORD, who was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines; for at that time they were ruling over Israel.)” Judges 14:1-4

SAMSON’S MARRIAGE

Samson went down to Timnah, Judges 14:1.

Clarke, in his commentary, says the following.

‘A frontier town of the Philistines, at the beginning of the lands belonging to the tribe of Judah, Joshua 15:57; but afterwards given up to Dan, Joshua 19:43. David took this place from the Philistines, but they again got possession of it in the reign of Ahaz, 2 Chronicles 28:18.’

The text tells us a Philistine girl catches Samson’s eye and it was definitely ‘lust at first sight’, Judges 14:1. Samson tells his parents to arrange the marriage, Judges 14:2 / Exodus 34:16 / Nehemiah 10:30, but his parents asks him, isn’t there an acceptable woman among his relatives or among their people? Exodus 34:16 / Deuteronomy 7:3. Must he go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife? Judges 14:33 / Proverbs 17:21 / 1 Samuel 14:6 / 1 Samuel 17:26 / 1 Samuel 31:4 / Acts 11:3.

His parents are appalled that he would want to marry a pagan girl, someone who was outside of God’s covenant with Israel. It’s quite clear that Samson totally disregarded his parent’s authority and so in the process, he was breaking the fifth commandment to ‘honour your mother and father’, Exodus 20:12. And as we shall see over the next few chapters, Samson’s fatal attraction to Philistine women was going to be his downfall.

The text literally says that Samson argues with his parents and says, ‘she is right in my eyes’, Judges 14:3. What’s so important about that? Remember the theme for the Book of Judges, ‘every man did what was right in his own eyes,’ Judges 17:6, and so Samson is no exception in this instance.

But God, as we have seen time and time again through the Book of Judges has a way of using people’s weaknesses to accomplish His will, Judges 14:4 / 1 Corinthians 1:27. The only good result of this union was the destruction of God’s enemies. And so God was going to use Samson’s moral weakness to accomplish His purpose, and that was to confront the Philistines.

“Samson went down to Timnah together with his father and mother. As they approached the vineyards of Timnah, suddenly a young lion came roaring toward him. The Spirit of the LORD came powerfully upon him so that he tore the lion apart with his bare hands as he might have torn a young goat. But he told neither his father nor his mother what he had done. Then he went down and talked with the woman, and he liked her.” Judges 14:5-7

On a visit to arrange his wedding with his parents, as they approached the vineyards of Timnah Samson is attacked by a lion, Judges 14:6, and it’s here, he discovers his miraculous strength and without any weapon, he tears the lion apart, Judges 14:6.

We sometimes picture him as some pumped-up superman, but the reality is, he was more likely an ordinary-looking person, which is in theme with the people God chooses to deliver His people. It was evident that God had given Samson his strength because the text says that ‘the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon him’, Judges 14:6. So we need to understand that he didn’t become strong by working out, he became strong because God was working through him.

Why didn’t he tell his parents about what happened? Judges 14:6. Samson doesn’t his parents about the lion incident, because he would have to undergo a lengthy cleansing ritual at the tabernacle. But the main reason was he was simply too busy taking care of personal interests. There are times when we simply get too busy looking after our own needs that we neglect to do what’s more important. Samson isn’t putting God first because he went down and talked with the woman, and he liked her, Judges 14:7. He’s putting his own needs first and we too can easily put our own needs before God if we’re not careful, Proverbs 3:6.

‘Some time later, when he went back to marry her, he turned aside to look at the lion’s carcass, and in it he saw a swarm of bees and some honey. He scooped out the honey with his hands and ate as he went along. When he re-joined his parents, he gave them some, and they too ate it. But he did not tell them that he had taken the honey from the lion’s carcass. Now his father went down to see the woman. And there Samson held a feast, as was customary for young men. When the people saw him, they chose thirty men to be his companions. “Let me tell you a riddle,” Samson said to them. “If you can give me the answer within the seven days of the feast, I will give you thirty linen garments and thirty sets of clothes. If you can’t tell me the answer, you must give me thirty linen garments and thirty sets of clothes.” “Tell us your riddle,” they said. “Let’s hear it. Out of the eater, something to eat; out of the strong, something sweet. On the fourth day, they said to Samson’s wife, “Coax your husband into explaining the riddle for us, or we will burn you and your father’s household to death. Did you invite us here to steal our property?” Judges 14:8-15

Barnes, in his commentary, says the following.

‘The formal dowry and gifts having been given by Samson’s father, an interval, varying according to the Oriental custom, from a few days to a full year, elapsed between the betrothal and the wedding, during which the bride lived with her friends. Then came the essential part of the marriage ceremony, namely, the removal of the bride from her father’s house to that of the bridegroom or his father.’

On his return trip when he went back to marry the woman, he sees the lion carcass occupied by a hive of bees, Judges 14:8. He scooped out the honey with his hands and ate as he went along and when he re-joined his parents, he gave them some, and they too ate it, Judges 14:9. However, he didn’t tell them that he had taken the honey from the lion’s carcass, Judges 14:9.

His father goes down to see the woman and there Samson held a wedding feast, Genesis 29:22 / Esther 2:18 / Matthew 22:2-4 / Revelation 19:7 / Revelation 19:9, as was customary for young men and when the people saw him, they chose thirty men to be his companions, Judges 14:10-11 / Matthew 9:15. He then devises a clever riddle, Judges 14:12. Riddles were given great importance in the ancient world and when you think about Samson himself, his whole life was a riddle.

And as the wedding was being prepared, Samson wagers his riddle as a challenge to the thirty groomsmen. He tells the men if they can solve the riddle, he will give them thirty linen garments and thirty sets of clothes, Judges 14:12. However, if they can’t tell him the answer, they must give him thirty linen garments and thirty sets of clothes, and everyone agrees to hear the riddle, Judges 14:13.

Clarke, in his commentary, says the following.

‘Probably this was one part of the amusements at a marriage-feast; each in his turn proposing a riddle, to be solved by any of the rest on a particular forfeit; the proposer forfeiting, if solved, the same which the company must forfeit if they could not solve it.’

Samson now tells them the riddle which was, out of the eater, something to eat; out of the strong, something sweet, Judges 14:15. Just as a side note, the next time you’re in the supermarket shopping for honey, pick up a jar of Lyle’s Golden Syrup and you’ll see on the front of it, a picture of a yellow lion and you’ll find these very words written on the front.

Samson is obviously talking about the lion carcass with the beehives inside of it, Judges 14:8, and because the wedding feast would last seven days, that would give them a week to figure it out. We are told for three days they couldn’t give the answer, Judges 14:14. They were stumped and were determined the only way to solve the riddle and win the bet was by threatening Samson’s bride.

It was on the fourth day, they threaten Samson’s wife and tell her to coax her husband into explaining the riddle for them, or they will burn her and her father’s household to death, Judges 14:15. They then ask, did she invite them here to steal their property? Judges 14:15.

“Then Samson’s wife threw herself on him, sobbing, “You hate me! You don’t really love me. You’ve given my people a riddle, but you haven’t told me the answer.” “I haven’t even explained it to my father or mother,” he replied, “so why should I explain it to you?” She cried the whole seven days of the feast. So on the seventh day he finally told her, because she continued to press him. She in turn explained the riddle to her people. If you had not ploughed with my heifer, you would not have solved my riddle.” Judges 14:16-18

I mentioned earlier that Samson’s weakness was Philistine women and here we see his weakness again. She throws herself on him, sobbing, and says he hates her, he doesn’t really love her. He has given her people a riddle, but he haven’t told her the answer, Judges 14:16. Samson tells her he hasn’t even told his parents, why should he explain it to her, Judges 14:17.

Notice she cried the whole seven days of the feast, Judges 14:18. And so, his wife’s tears unlock the secret, Judges 14:18, and she tells the men and when the groomsmen who so easily and persuasively solve Samson’s riddle, his anger is aroused, and he correctly concludes that they pressured the answer from his bride. He goes on to rebuke them, but I don’t know about you but I don’t think my wife would like to be called a heifer, Judges 14:18. This basically means ‘if you had not slept with my wife’.

Clarke, in his commentary, says the following, concerning Judges 14:18.

‘If my wife had not been unfaithful to my bed, she would not have been unfaithful to my secret and you being her paramours, your interest was more precious to her than that of her husband. She has betrayed me through her attachment to you.’

‘Then the Spirit of the LORD came powerfully upon him. He went down to Ashkelon, struck down thirty of their men, stripped them of everything and gave their clothes to those who had explained the riddle. Burning with anger, he returned to his father’s home. And Samson’s wife was given to one of his companions who had attended him at the feast.’ Judges 14:19-20

God moved Samson through His Spirit to take vengeance, slaughtering thirty Philistines, Judges 14:19. He stripped them of everything and gave their clothes to those who had explained the riddle, Judges 14:19. His angry departure suggests that he simply abandoned his bride, making the marriage invalid. In his anger, Judges 14:19, Samson didn’t complete the marriage ceremony and because he left and returned home, Judges 14:19. And I’m sure that his leaving the celebration feast must have been awkward for his bride and her family.

The father of the bride assumed that Samson was no longer interested in her and so, she was then given to a friend of Samson, possibly a Philistine friend, Judges 14:20 / Judges 14:11 / John 3:29. If Samson learned anything from this event, he learned just how deceitful the Philistines really were.

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